Hi, I’m Moon, I have been in a long term relationship since 1990 with a partner who I accepted as transvestite. Back then, information about transvestism was harder to come by. Being the sort of person I am, I endeavoured to find out as much as I could, in order to help my partner. We eventually started going out to various places (and staying in lol) with other transvestites, transgendered people and transsexual women on a regular basis.
In 1994 my partner went to a Gender Identity Clinic and was diagnosed with gender dysphoria and started hormones. She stopped attending clinic a year later, for fear of our marriage ending, although she continued on with hormones. My partner is Transsexual, although at times she has done her very worst to deny it. I would like to tell you that it’s been a bed of roses, but it hasn’t! However, through whatever life has thrown my way, I have done my best to work through and get on best I can. Like everyone else, sometimes I make a complete hash of it!
What I do do well, is support others and over the years I have always tried to do that wherever possible. More recently I found myself in need of support, having gone through a sticky challenging period. No matter how well we think we are coping, there is always the unexpected that will come along when we least expect it.
This website was supposed to have been here several years ago, but due to time constraints and other commitments, the time was never right. More recently I have been blessed to have Pen around who steadies me, and brings a different balance to things, we work well together and so here we are!!
I would like to take the opportunity to say that we are pretty bomb proof! There isn’t much we haven’t either heard or experienced and we don’t shock easy! If you ask questions you will always get an honest and unbiased answer, and if we don’t have the answer we will always find out.
The object of the site is for you all to draw your own conclusions about what is right for you, and to know that there is support here for you, no matter what that decision may be.
I have seen the worst and the best of transgenderism, through the complete spectrum, it’s now time to put that experience to good use. I'm thirty nine years old, and considered a tad unconventional by my friends !
I will hand over to Pen, who doubtless will make more sense than me!
My name's Pen, and I've been married for sixteen years to a man I love dearly, whose name is Trisha.....
My husband is a transvestite. Along with many others like himself, he has been transvestite since childhood, and, again like so many others, has experienced a great deal of guilt, confusion and distress over what he regarded for most of his life as a shameful perversion, to be kept secret at all costs. Although when we met and fell in love he believed it was something he could give up, and that I need never know anything about it, he discovered as so many do that his transvestism wasn't so easily dismissed, and he eventually realised that it wasn't going to go away and that he was, basically, stuck with it.
Since then he has fully accepted what he is and come to terms with it, with the help of the information and support now widely available through the Internet, an excellent counsellor and many transgendered friends and acquaintances. He now helps to provide for others the support that he himself received when he needed it most.
Through the many transgendered friends, TV, TS and all shades in between, that we have made together, I've had the opportunity to learn a great deal about gender and gender variance. And from the start I've felt considerable sympathy and concern for the wives and partners of TG men who have found themselves - sometimes with no warning at all - having to cope, as I did, with something about which they often know next to nothing. So when Moon asked for my help in setting up and running this site, I was only to happy to work with her.
Like Moon, I'm more or less shock-proof, have a wide circle of contacts in the TG community and understand most of the emotions - shock, distress, confusion, anger, fear - which the partners of TG people may experience, because I've been there myself. Whatever support you may need in your present situation, whether information, practical advice or just an ear to listen, we'll do our best to provide it.
Nobody can make decisions for you, and we won't try to tell you what you should feel or do. But we both hope this site will give you the information and support you need in what's often a very difficult, confusing and painful time.....
When we set up Transpartners, we did so with the help of a number of people within the T community. We have a 'core' managing group, several of whom are Trans people, who are ultimately responsible for factual correctness of content seen on the main visible non-member part of the site.
Most of the site is open to view, for anyone who chooses to do so.
It has always been our aim to promote greater awareness of Trans issues in everyday life.
We can only fulfil this remit by having the team we have. They are the true unsung heroes and heroines of Transpartners.
They are also around to offer what support they can to anyone who is suffering from gender issues; some have counselling experience and some do not.
You can access this support by using the 'Are You Affected ?' page in the Transgendered section. We will endeavour to match you as closely as possible with someone who has specific experience relevant to you.
Please Note: the site is still being added to, so we apologise for any glitches ! Please bear with us, thanks.....
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